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Eight setbacks that can make a child a success : what to do and what to say to turn "failures" into character-building moments

Michelle Icard (Author)
"Every child messes up, sometimes in ways that seem sure to wreck their futures: a bad report card, poor sportsmanship, underaged drinking. These are tough moments for parent and child alike, often complicated by the fear that the misstep is also an indictment of our parenting. But what each of these "fails" has in common for our kids is the precious silver lining of a chance for character building and developing more grit-if we help them process their mistake well. An invaluable playbook for anxious parents everywhere, Eight Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success offers specific and unexpected advice about what to say, what not to say, and what to do to help children in eight categories of tense situations. Distilled from Michelle Icard's decades of experience working with tweens, teenagers, and families, it also introduces her signature three-step approach to any kind of failure: Contain: Affirm your child, gather the facts, and control the narrative. Resolve: Explain what went wrong, define clear consequences, teach them to apologize well, and develop a plan to rebuild trust. Evolve: Reaffirm and re-expand their rights, and establish rewards for good behaviors. With empathy, insight, and optimism, Michelle Icard's advice ensures that a child's mistake or rebellion doesn't become the headline of their childhood, but instead becomes a launch pad to a better future"-- Provided by publisher
Print Book, English, 2023
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Rodale, New York, 2023
xxii, 265 pages : illustration ; 24 cm.
9780593578667, 059357866X
Part I. Getting comfortable with failure
Understanding failure and how it functions ; How communities benefit from letting children fail ; Keeping children safe as they take more risks (featuring your child's bill of rights) ; Preparing yourself for what's ahead ; Three steps to overcoming failure ; Part II. Eight archetypal failures
Failure to follow the rules: the rebel ; Failure to take care of their body: the daredevil ; Failure to perform well in school: the misfit ; Failure to show concern for others: the ego ; Failure to connect with peers: the loner ; Failure to handle their feelings: the sensitive one ; Failure to get along with their family: the black sheep ; Failure to believe in oneself: the benchwarmer ; Being there for each other