The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability : For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is the first complete sex guide for people who live with disabilities, pain, illness, or chronic conditions. Useful for absolutely everyone, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation, the book addresses a wide range of disabilities - from chronic fatigue, back pain, and asthma to spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairment, multiple sclerosis, and more. Expertly written by a medical doctor, a sex educator, and a disability activist, The Ultimate Guide provides readers with encouragement, support, and all the information they need to create
1 online resource (331 pages)
9781573446365, 157344636X
1053796945
Intro; ABOUT THE AUTHORS; Title Page; Dedication; Acknowledgments; Introduction; CHAPTER 1
Myths About Disability and Sexuality; Myth #1: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are not sexual.; Myth #2: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are not desirable.; Myth #3: Sex must be spontaneous.; Myth #4: People who live with disabilities and chronic illnesses can't have ... ; Myth #5: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are pathetic ... ; Myth #6: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses have more ... Myth #7: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are not sexually adventurous. Myth #8: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses who have sex are perverts.; Myth #9: We all get what we deserve, and we can always do more to help ourselves.; Myth #10: People living in institutions shouldn't have sex.; Myth #11: Sex is private.; Myth #12: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses don't get ... ; Myth #13: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses don't need sex education. Myth #14: People living with disabilities and chronic illnesses are unnatural. Exercises; CHAPTER 2
Desire and Self-Esteem; How Important Are Sex and Desire?; Self-Image and Self-Esteem; Pain and Self-Esteem; Identity and Self-Esteem; Coming Out as Disabled; Taking Care of Ourselves; Exercises; CHAPTER 3
Sexual Anatomy and Sexual Response; Barriers to Understanding Our Bodies and Our Sexuality; Become Your Own Sex Expert; Sexual Anatomy; Sexual Response; Sexual Response Cycles; Orgasm; Things to Consider About Your Own Sexual Response; Exercises; CHAPTER 4
Communication. Barriers to Good Sexual CommunicationBlaming the Disability; When Do I Talk About My Disability?; Timing; Take Initiative and Practice; Flirting; Communicating Without Privacy; Communicating About Pain; Meeting People; Get Involved and Get Outside; Personal Ads and Dating Services; Finding People Online; Newsgroups, Dating Services, and Live Chats; Paying for Sex; Negotiating with Attendants; Communicating with Health Care Professionals About Sex; Exercises; CHAPTER 5
Sex with Ourselves; Why Masturbate?; Your Own Time; Getting Started; What to Use; Finding Your Hot Spots. Solo Sex with OthersThe Basic "How-To's" of Masturbation; CHAPTER 6
Sex with Others; Communication; Anxiety; Expectations; Timing; Spontaneity; Energy; Where to Have Sex; Fantasy; Gender Play; Touch; Orgasm; Fetishes; Additional Considerations for Sex with Others; Specific Conditions; CHAPTER 7
Oral Sex; Common Concerns; Cunnilingus; Fellatio; Mutual Oral Sex (the 69 Position); Analingus; Using Toys; Kissing; CHAPTER 8
Penetration and Positioning; Vaginal Penetration; Anal Sex; Positions; CHAPTER 9
Sex Toys, Books, and Videos; Who Uses Sex Toys?; Why Use Sex Toys?
Sex Toys as Tools of Empowerment